"Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him."
There is a distinct advantage to the Christian faith, one that surpasses secular thinking altogether. It elevates the priority of Scripture and enables a man to reflect upon the blessing James describes as something tangible and worth seeking after. It is counter-cultural, but that is absolutely what James intended to convey when he penned these words.
Living opposite of culture is not an easy task as there are significant risks today for living a public Christian faith. Yet it is our privilege to endure even persecution as a trial that defines and edifies our faith, rather than shakes it or causes us to grow lukewarm and indifferent concerning truth.
Moreover, the trials we face fall under God's sovereign authority, so we could almost read James' admonition as, "Blessed are those who remain under the sovereign authority of God." It is easier for my heart to accept this terminology than "trials" because it reassures me that no matter what I face (trials included), God knows all and is in full control at all times. Therefore I can release all fear and anxiety over the unknown because His love promises me that He has the best in store for me...and that does not presuppose my life will be roses. It may be His will that more thorns than blooms represent my life here on earth, but that is temporary because the eternal crown of life (my salvation in Christ) enables me to endure whatever fiery trials come my way, and that is the true blessing of God.
Tuesday, July 7, 2015
Monday, July 6, 2015
James 1:9-11 (Devotion)
"Let the lowly brother boast in his exaltation, and the rich in his humiliation, because like a flower of the grass he will pass away. For the sun rises with its scorching heat and withers the grass; its flower falls, and its beauty perishes. So also will the rich man fade away in the midst of his pursuits."
There comes a point when a man looks back at his life and takes stock of his mortality. In these moments, he acknowledges the plight he has been dealt by God, whether rich or poor, and reflects upon its advantages and disadvantages. It is a counter-cultural assessment of God's economy where the lowly are exalted and the rich humbled, but one that puts a trial-esque emphasis on God's provision and the impact it has on the human heart.
First, there is nothing wrong with monetary success. James is not condemning those who are financially successful, rather he is emphasizing that perspective is vital. In both cases, whether a man is entrusted with little or an abudance, how he managed the resources God provided speaks to the condition of his heart from an eternal perspective and to whom he attributes his success (himself or God).
Money is an issue that can pull a man into deep waters though when poverty or riches become worldly issues that consume the heart. Therefore, James exhorts the lowly to realize that their life on earth is temporary and eternal riches await those who trust in the Lord, while also exhorting the rich man who has humbled himself to take heart that he realizes his worldly possessions are indeed temporary. Bottom-line: Heart condition is James' focus amidst the trials of life and temptations of the world. However, as men who are providers for our families, the warning to not be consumed by status or success is pivotal too. We cannot gloss over the dangers of losing sight that our jobs are God's provision for our needs, not our identity in life. For as death awaits us all, so too is the responsibility that we must give an account.
There comes a point when a man looks back at his life and takes stock of his mortality. In these moments, he acknowledges the plight he has been dealt by God, whether rich or poor, and reflects upon its advantages and disadvantages. It is a counter-cultural assessment of God's economy where the lowly are exalted and the rich humbled, but one that puts a trial-esque emphasis on God's provision and the impact it has on the human heart.
First, there is nothing wrong with monetary success. James is not condemning those who are financially successful, rather he is emphasizing that perspective is vital. In both cases, whether a man is entrusted with little or an abudance, how he managed the resources God provided speaks to the condition of his heart from an eternal perspective and to whom he attributes his success (himself or God).
Money is an issue that can pull a man into deep waters though when poverty or riches become worldly issues that consume the heart. Therefore, James exhorts the lowly to realize that their life on earth is temporary and eternal riches await those who trust in the Lord, while also exhorting the rich man who has humbled himself to take heart that he realizes his worldly possessions are indeed temporary. Bottom-line: Heart condition is James' focus amidst the trials of life and temptations of the world. However, as men who are providers for our families, the warning to not be consumed by status or success is pivotal too. We cannot gloss over the dangers of losing sight that our jobs are God's provision for our needs, not our identity in life. For as death awaits us all, so too is the responsibility that we must give an account.
Friday, July 3, 2015
James 1:6-8 (Devotion)
"But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind. For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways."
Continuing from verse 5, James admonishes that faith is the prerequisite when asking God for wisdom. Faith is "a settled trust and confidence in God based on His character and promises as revealed in Scripture" (ESV Study Bible). So when we ask God for wisdom but do not fully trust that He can and will answer our request according to His timing and sovereignty, we are unstable in our thinking.
James furthers likens a man who doubts to a helpless wave tossed and driven aimlessly on the seas of life, because he trusts in either the world or his own abilities moreso than God. The picture of instability James paints is quite profound, for it reveals that who we believe God to be is foundational to understanding this teaching.
I would venture to guess that those of us who profess Jesus as Lord believe God is good. Yet James in writing to the church calls out a lack of faith issue. Why? If I examine my own heart, I come to realize that silence causes me to doubt at times. When I feel like God is not giving me clear direction, I tend to lean on my own ability or logical understanding based on experiential knowledge rather than Scripture. It is in those moments where I need self-recognition of this pattern and accountability through the body of Christ to break free. For in no way do I desire to be double-minded, supplementing the wisdom of God for the wisdom of the world based on convenience. Rather, I must be patient and believe firmly IN FAITH that God will honor my request for wisdom. For only He can satisfy my desire for wisdom because He is the ultimate source of it.
Continuing from verse 5, James admonishes that faith is the prerequisite when asking God for wisdom. Faith is "a settled trust and confidence in God based on His character and promises as revealed in Scripture" (ESV Study Bible). So when we ask God for wisdom but do not fully trust that He can and will answer our request according to His timing and sovereignty, we are unstable in our thinking.
James furthers likens a man who doubts to a helpless wave tossed and driven aimlessly on the seas of life, because he trusts in either the world or his own abilities moreso than God. The picture of instability James paints is quite profound, for it reveals that who we believe God to be is foundational to understanding this teaching.
I would venture to guess that those of us who profess Jesus as Lord believe God is good. Yet James in writing to the church calls out a lack of faith issue. Why? If I examine my own heart, I come to realize that silence causes me to doubt at times. When I feel like God is not giving me clear direction, I tend to lean on my own ability or logical understanding based on experiential knowledge rather than Scripture. It is in those moments where I need self-recognition of this pattern and accountability through the body of Christ to break free. For in no way do I desire to be double-minded, supplementing the wisdom of God for the wisdom of the world based on convenience. Rather, I must be patient and believe firmly IN FAITH that God will honor my request for wisdom. For only He can satisfy my desire for wisdom because He is the ultimate source of it.
Wednesday, July 1, 2015
James 1:5 (Devotion)
"If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.
This next section of James 1 continues the theme of our faith being tested in trials with an emphasis on the role of wisdom. To begin, "wisdom, as in the OT, is a God-given and God-centered discernment regarding the practical issues of life" (ESV Study Bible). I love this definition because it reinforces that wisdom is found in God and given freely from God to those who ask.
It must be noted though that James makes what I consider a laughable comment of "IF any of you lacks wisdom." I doubt any of us would say we are overflowing with wisdom and cannot accept anymore. But more importantly, James emphasizes the call for us to act. We must ASK if we want wisdom. God is gracious to give it, but we have to do our part and ask rather than pridefully wait for God to bestow it on us of His own accord.
Moreover, asking without reproach is simply humbling oneself to come to God without feeling shamed in asking for help. This is a wise call-out and warning to us as men. Let's not kid ourselves, the majority of us to one degree or another struggle asking for help. Society further reinforces that sentiment as a sign of weakness. But here, James admonishes men to lay aside fleshly pride and approach the throne of grace in reverent humility to ask for help. What a phenomenal ministry tool that application could be if we applied it to our families! How much more respect would we receive from our wives and children if we modeled James 1:5 rather than preached it?
Bottom line, if we want true wisdom, we know where to get it and how to get it.....are we simply bold enough to humble ourselves and ask God? He's waiting patiently to generously give it.
This next section of James 1 continues the theme of our faith being tested in trials with an emphasis on the role of wisdom. To begin, "wisdom, as in the OT, is a God-given and God-centered discernment regarding the practical issues of life" (ESV Study Bible). I love this definition because it reinforces that wisdom is found in God and given freely from God to those who ask.
It must be noted though that James makes what I consider a laughable comment of "IF any of you lacks wisdom." I doubt any of us would say we are overflowing with wisdom and cannot accept anymore. But more importantly, James emphasizes the call for us to act. We must ASK if we want wisdom. God is gracious to give it, but we have to do our part and ask rather than pridefully wait for God to bestow it on us of His own accord.
Moreover, asking without reproach is simply humbling oneself to come to God without feeling shamed in asking for help. This is a wise call-out and warning to us as men. Let's not kid ourselves, the majority of us to one degree or another struggle asking for help. Society further reinforces that sentiment as a sign of weakness. But here, James admonishes men to lay aside fleshly pride and approach the throne of grace in reverent humility to ask for help. What a phenomenal ministry tool that application could be if we applied it to our families! How much more respect would we receive from our wives and children if we modeled James 1:5 rather than preached it?
Bottom line, if we want true wisdom, we know where to get it and how to get it.....are we simply bold enough to humble ourselves and ask God? He's waiting patiently to generously give it.
Tuesday, June 30, 2015
James 1:2-4 (Devotion)
"Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing."
Some may balk at the notion that our faith needs to he tested, but even Jesus' faith was tested in the wilderness (Matt. 4). A faith test is simply a measuring stick or spiritual thermometer to see how firmly grounded or steadfast you are in your faith. I liken it to Jesus teaching of building a house upon the sand versus the rock. In the end, the result is the same, which is our sanctification. The real question is whether we allow the trial to take its full course or do we strive to shorten it or escape to some degree. James would say to let it take its full effect, for in the end God will reveal to you all you needed to learn in due time.
COUNT IT - James begins this teaching by calling for us believers (the church) to stop, recollect, and literally quantify how faithful the Lord has been in our lives despite the trials we have previously faced. How often do we stop and intentionally remember spiritual markers though?
ALL JOY - We are called not to find a shred of joy in our trials but to declare every aspect of the trial we face a blessing and gift from God that our character and countenance would be sharpened and refined through it.
MY BROTHERS - What distinguishes Christians from unbelievers is that we do not run or avoid trials but we embrace them as a family unit, coming alongside the needs of one another in trial. We also do not curse or question God for the trial because our identity in Christ as brothers calls us to a higher standard.
WHEN YOU - James admonishes us not "IF" we will each face trials, but "WHEN" we face trials. Therefore we must prepare our hearts and not be blindsided when adversity arrives.
MEET TRIALS - Trials are intended as opportunities for growth that we face head on, not run from, ignore or minimize. Conversely, we are not to be so consumed by them that we are incapacitated by them or they become a stronghold in our hearts.
OF VARIOUS KINDS - Be wise to expect trials but do not assume you know where, how and through whom they will come. Trust in God's sovereignty and do not be naive or easily shaken. For Satan knows our weaknesses and purposes to exploit them in a variety of schemes just as God seeks to use what Satan would intend for evil to sanctify us. Therefore, regardless through whom the trial comes, embrace God's sovereign will in full surrender and obedience to His Word.
Webster's 1828 Dictionary defines steadfastness as "firmness of mind or purpose; fixedness in principle; constancy; resolution; as the steadfastness of faith." In other words, when our faith is tested and refined in and through trials, what is produced is faithful endurance that is firm, resolute and unshakable. And as we grow in holiness, we are perfected through the Son in our steadfastness.
Some may balk at the notion that our faith needs to he tested, but even Jesus' faith was tested in the wilderness (Matt. 4). A faith test is simply a measuring stick or spiritual thermometer to see how firmly grounded or steadfast you are in your faith. I liken it to Jesus teaching of building a house upon the sand versus the rock. In the end, the result is the same, which is our sanctification. The real question is whether we allow the trial to take its full course or do we strive to shorten it or escape to some degree. James would say to let it take its full effect, for in the end God will reveal to you all you needed to learn in due time.
Friday, June 26, 2015
Proverbs 10:19 (Devotion)
"When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent."
I don't think any of us men would disagree that our words can have a negative impact on others....just ask our wives! Yet I believe in the language of Scripture it is easy to gloss over fancy words such as "transgression" and "prudent." If we slow down and define words more clearly though, we'll not only understand the wisdom of this proverb, but God-willing apply its truth to our lives more frequently.
According to Noah Webster's 1828 Dictionary (which was originally written from a Biblical perspective), a "transgression" is defined as "the act of passing over or beyond any law or rule of moral duty; the violation of a moral law; breach of command." Therefore in applying this definition to Proverb 10:19, when our words are many, the potential opportunity for our moral compass begins to sway away from blessing and more to cursing. Conversely, "prudent" is defined by Webster as "cautious, practically wise, careful of the consequences," thus giving us the end in mind to calculate the impact of our words before they are spoken. I dare say that conflict resolution in marriage is a prime application in context of these definitions.
In the end, we must recognize our patterns of communication with others, and particularly in marriage. For me, I can easily fall into a trap of talking too much and not listening to understand others, especially my wife. I can be focused more on my defense or rebuttal than hearing the truth of an argument made against me. In truth, pride is the driving force, but it cannot be an excuse that hinders me from making positive change. I must learn to tame my tongue, and as my mother preached repeatedly to me as a child, "Think before you speak!" Only then will I begin to build a new discipline of not only measuring my words, but ensuring they are morally and Biblically sound before they are spoken.
I don't think any of us men would disagree that our words can have a negative impact on others....just ask our wives! Yet I believe in the language of Scripture it is easy to gloss over fancy words such as "transgression" and "prudent." If we slow down and define words more clearly though, we'll not only understand the wisdom of this proverb, but God-willing apply its truth to our lives more frequently.
According to Noah Webster's 1828 Dictionary (which was originally written from a Biblical perspective), a "transgression" is defined as "the act of passing over or beyond any law or rule of moral duty; the violation of a moral law; breach of command." Therefore in applying this definition to Proverb 10:19, when our words are many, the potential opportunity for our moral compass begins to sway away from blessing and more to cursing. Conversely, "prudent" is defined by Webster as "cautious, practically wise, careful of the consequences," thus giving us the end in mind to calculate the impact of our words before they are spoken. I dare say that conflict resolution in marriage is a prime application in context of these definitions.
In the end, we must recognize our patterns of communication with others, and particularly in marriage. For me, I can easily fall into a trap of talking too much and not listening to understand others, especially my wife. I can be focused more on my defense or rebuttal than hearing the truth of an argument made against me. In truth, pride is the driving force, but it cannot be an excuse that hinders me from making positive change. I must learn to tame my tongue, and as my mother preached repeatedly to me as a child, "Think before you speak!" Only then will I begin to build a new discipline of not only measuring my words, but ensuring they are morally and Biblically sound before they are spoken.
Monday, June 15, 2015
Psalm 51:1-2 (Devotion)
"Have mercy on me, O God, according to your steadfast love; according to your abundant mercy blot out my transgressions. Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity, and cleanse me from my sin!"
The path of reconciliation to God begins with an acknowledgment of who God is. He is our creator, our judge and our redeemer. He is the Alpha and Omega, the author of life, and only through Him can forgiveness of sin be attained. More importantly as David affirms, God is the author and administer of mercy, and thus we simply cannot undervalue how critical His mercy is. Because without it, we are declared guilty without excuse.
It is critical we understand that His love is the reason why He gives mercy, not because we deserve it. What we deserve is wrath, for His law (Scripture) declares that sin must be judged. But because He loves, He provided a way of escape for our eternal judgment by sacrificing His Son on the cross on our behalf. And that is the epitome of mercy--not punishing us for what we deserve, but through grace providing an even greater gift of salvation and atonement that we do not deserve nor can never payback.
Cleansing of sin must be universal though, for all roots of sin must be eradicated like cancer for the whole body to survive. But there must also be specificity in order to determine that we fully understand the breadth and depth of our sins, otherwise we are more apt to fall victim again. When we take the time to acknowledge exactly what we did and how we ended up in our pit of guilt and shame, we begin the process of reconciliation realizing that only He can cleanse us because He is almighty. For time taken to reflect points to seeds of brokenness, and that is the ultimate goal God seeks for our sanctification.
The path of reconciliation to God begins with an acknowledgment of who God is. He is our creator, our judge and our redeemer. He is the Alpha and Omega, the author of life, and only through Him can forgiveness of sin be attained. More importantly as David affirms, God is the author and administer of mercy, and thus we simply cannot undervalue how critical His mercy is. Because without it, we are declared guilty without excuse.
It is critical we understand that His love is the reason why He gives mercy, not because we deserve it. What we deserve is wrath, for His law (Scripture) declares that sin must be judged. But because He loves, He provided a way of escape for our eternal judgment by sacrificing His Son on the cross on our behalf. And that is the epitome of mercy--not punishing us for what we deserve, but through grace providing an even greater gift of salvation and atonement that we do not deserve nor can never payback.
Cleansing of sin must be universal though, for all roots of sin must be eradicated like cancer for the whole body to survive. But there must also be specificity in order to determine that we fully understand the breadth and depth of our sins, otherwise we are more apt to fall victim again. When we take the time to acknowledge exactly what we did and how we ended up in our pit of guilt and shame, we begin the process of reconciliation realizing that only He can cleanse us because He is almighty. For time taken to reflect points to seeds of brokenness, and that is the ultimate goal God seeks for our sanctification.
Saturday, June 13, 2015
Acts 9:1-19 (Devotion)
"But Saul, still breathing threats and murder against the disciples of the Lord, went to the high priest and asked him for letters to the synagogues at Damascus, so that if he found any belonging to the Way, men or women, he might bring them bound to Jerusalem. Now as he went on his way, he approached Damascus, and suddenly a light from heaven shone around him. And falling to the ground he heard a voice saying to him, “Saul, Saul, why are you persecuting me?” And he said, “Who are you, Lord?” And he said, “I am Jesus, whom you are persecuting. But rise and enter the city, and you will be told what you are to do.” The men who were traveling with him stood speechless, hearing the voice but seeing no one. Saul rose from the ground, and although his eyes were opened, he saw nothing. So they led him by the hand and brought him into Damascus. And for three days he was without sight, and neither ate nor drank. Now there was a disciple at Damascus named Ananias. The Lord said to him in a vision, “Ananias.” And he said, “Here I am, Lord.” And the Lord said to him, “Rise and go to the street called Straight, and at the house of Judas look for a man of Tarsus named Saul, for behold, he is praying, and he has seen in a vision a man named Ananias come in and lay his hands on him so that he might regain his sight.” But Ananias answered, “Lord, I have heard from many about this man, how much evil he has done to your saints at Jerusalem. And here he has authority from the chief priests to bind all who call on your name.” But the Lord said to him, “Go, for he is a chosen instrument of mine to carry my name before the Gentiles and kings and the children of Israel. For I will show him how much he must suffer for the sake of my name.” So Ananias departed and entered the house. And laying his hands on him he said, “Brother Saul, the Lord Jesus who appeared to you on the road by which you came has sent me so that you may regain your sight and be filled with the Holy Spirit.” And immediately something like scales fell from his eyes, and he regained his sight. Then he rose and was baptized; and taking food, he was strengthened."
Knowing how Saul was terrorizing Christians at that time, it is no surprise that Ananias was extremely hesitant/nervous/fearful about the Lord's request for him to give a message to Saul on His behalf. I dare say this would have been the most uncomfortable Ananias had ever been in his life, yet he trusted the Lord in obedience and chose to do what the Lord commanded. He chose to obey despite what his flesh was adamantly against.
We all cater to our comforts...it's our natural fleshly reaction. But how often do we choose to step forward in faith and do what is uncomfortable? We tend to calculate personal risk analysis in our faith application which often talks us out of sharing the Gospel or having any faith-related discussion with others. Some of us aren't "talkers" or "writers" so we choose silence over participation and use those excuses as crutches to fall back on to justify our lukewarm behavior or insecurities. Why? What is holding us back as Christians who are saved and have made our faith public in baptism? We can no longer be silent. We must embrace discomfort so that we become acquainted and comfortable with it, otherwise we will continue to marginally grow in our faith by choosing to isolate rather than embrace our faith community. If we wait to step forward or speak up till we become more comfortable, we will never grow to the potential Christ has in store for us. Let this be the moment YOU choose to embrace discomfort once and for all and interact in dialogue so that your countenance and the countenance of others can be sharpened for the glory of God.
Knowing how Saul was terrorizing Christians at that time, it is no surprise that Ananias was extremely hesitant/nervous/fearful about the Lord's request for him to give a message to Saul on His behalf. I dare say this would have been the most uncomfortable Ananias had ever been in his life, yet he trusted the Lord in obedience and chose to do what the Lord commanded. He chose to obey despite what his flesh was adamantly against.
We all cater to our comforts...it's our natural fleshly reaction. But how often do we choose to step forward in faith and do what is uncomfortable? We tend to calculate personal risk analysis in our faith application which often talks us out of sharing the Gospel or having any faith-related discussion with others. Some of us aren't "talkers" or "writers" so we choose silence over participation and use those excuses as crutches to fall back on to justify our lukewarm behavior or insecurities. Why? What is holding us back as Christians who are saved and have made our faith public in baptism? We can no longer be silent. We must embrace discomfort so that we become acquainted and comfortable with it, otherwise we will continue to marginally grow in our faith by choosing to isolate rather than embrace our faith community. If we wait to step forward or speak up till we become more comfortable, we will never grow to the potential Christ has in store for us. Let this be the moment YOU choose to embrace discomfort once and for all and interact in dialogue so that your countenance and the countenance of others can be sharpened for the glory of God.
Wednesday, June 10, 2015
Hebrews 12:3-7 (Devotion)
"Consider him who endured from sinners such hostility against himself, so that you may not grow weary or fainthearted. In your struggle against sin you have not yet resisted to the point of shedding your blood. And have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons? “My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him. For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives.” It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline?"
It is imperative that we as followers of Christ understand that God's purpose for our lives is our sanctification. We endure trials, hardships and persecution because through these, God admonishes, encourages, challenges and strengthens every fabric of our being in order that we may come to know Christ more intimately. None of us have suffered or will ever suffer to the point of shedding blood as Jesus did and the weight behind the choice He made for us. We can only accept His priceless gift and live our lives saved henceforth in praise and thanksgiving.
What we can draw our attention to is understanding that the discipline of the Lord is necessary for us to mature in our faith. Discipline is always purposeful when administered by God, so there is no need to resist it. We must embrace it and thank God for it. I can remember countless times when God allowed me to choose sin and its consequences and times when He prevented me from falling farther than I could have. In both cases, His hand acted in love and solely because of love. Why would I ever grumble or complain about that? Rather, I believe a perspective change is imperative to ensure we embrace God's timing and purpose for discipline if we are grow up in our faith. Because without it, we are vulnerable to misinterpreting God's will for our lives and why He does what He does, when and how He chooses.
It is imperative that we as followers of Christ understand that God's purpose for our lives is our sanctification. We endure trials, hardships and persecution because through these, God admonishes, encourages, challenges and strengthens every fabric of our being in order that we may come to know Christ more intimately. None of us have suffered or will ever suffer to the point of shedding blood as Jesus did and the weight behind the choice He made for us. We can only accept His priceless gift and live our lives saved henceforth in praise and thanksgiving.
What we can draw our attention to is understanding that the discipline of the Lord is necessary for us to mature in our faith. Discipline is always purposeful when administered by God, so there is no need to resist it. We must embrace it and thank God for it. I can remember countless times when God allowed me to choose sin and its consequences and times when He prevented me from falling farther than I could have. In both cases, His hand acted in love and solely because of love. Why would I ever grumble or complain about that? Rather, I believe a perspective change is imperative to ensure we embrace God's timing and purpose for discipline if we are grow up in our faith. Because without it, we are vulnerable to misinterpreting God's will for our lives and why He does what He does, when and how He chooses.
Thursday, July 10, 2014
Matthew 5:31-32
"It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery."
Divorce is arguably one of the most sensitive issues within the church today. It is prevalent within secular society and unfortunately has greatly affected the Christian church at large as well. Regardless of the statistics between secular and non-secular, divorce is rampant and confusion regarding where the Bible stands on this divisive issue is of utmost importance if the body of Christ is to survive this epidemic.
I am comforted as I write this post by the words of Christ who proclaimed, "He who has ears, let him hear" (Matthew 13:9). Preceding this verse, Jesus teaches the parable of the sower which reminds us that the Word of God is sustenance to men and women who proclaim themselves as born-again Christians, and of no value to those who reject its absolute truth. In turn, each of us receives the Word differently in our hearts based on our spiritual maturity and thus applies that truth accordingly to our theological foundation. "And he told them many things in parables, saying: “A sower went out to sow. And as he sowed, some seeds fell along the path, and the birds came and devoured them. Other seeds fell on rocky ground, where they did not have much soil, and immediately they sprang up, since they had no depth of soil, but when the sun rose they were scorched. And since they had no root, they withered away. Other seeds fell among thorns, and the thorns grew up and choked them. Other seeds fell on good soil and produced grain, some a hundredfold, some sixty, some thirty" (Matthew 13:3-8).
Again, it is absolutely critical that before delving into a hot topic such as divorce one must reconcile whether he/she believes God's Word is absolute truth, yet many Christians struggle with reconciling how they truly feel about Scripture. If we are to understand the heart of God, we must embrace John 1:1 as our foundation: "In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God" (John 1:1). If Jesus is who He says He is in the pages of Scripture, even if one is accepting of the New Testament alone, Scripture in its entirety is absolute truth for Jesus was the fulfillment of Old Testament prophesy and teaching. “Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them. For truly, I say to you, until heaven and earth pass away, not an iota, not a dot, will pass from the Law until all is accomplished" (Matthew 5:17-18). Jesus therefore is the manifestation of God's Word and we must reconcile this truth first and foremost in our lives if we are to understand what Scripture says about ANY topic. "And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth" (John 1:14).
In order to understand what Matthew 5:31-32 details, we must grasp the context to which Christ is speaking. As we have learned in our exegetical journey through Matthew 5, Jesus directly addressed Pharisaical teaching and behavior that undermined the true meaning of Scripture. He did not contradict the Law (Old Testament) but clarified its deeper meaning concerning prevalent issues such as anger, lust, divorce, oaths, retaliation, and love for one's enemies. Jesus sought after the roots of sin within our hearts and removed all justifications regarding law-abiding. Murder became a deeper issue concerning anger and bitterness (Matthew 5:21-26). Adultery became a convicting examination to the lustful intent toward another (Matthew 5:27-30). And now divorce is stripped of its "irreconcilable differences/incompatibility" justification and clearly defined on the ground (not including 1 Corinthians 7:12-16) to which one is allowed (not mandated) to divorce, if necessary, according to Jesus in Matthew 5:31-32.
It goes without saying that this study will create a stir within the heart of many because it cuts deep to our core beliefs. It strips away surface discussions and forces us to make a choice regarding what we believe on hot topics that are commonly accepted all around us, such as divorce. "For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart. And no creature is hidden from his sight, but all are naked and exposed to the eyes of him to whom we must give account" (Hebrews 4:12-13). Let us all be soberly reminded that we all will give an account not only for our thoughts and actions, but for what we believe. Scripture demands we make a choice either in favor of God's Word in its entirety or not. For to pick and choose what we want to accept or not accept in Scripture undermines Christ Himself as declared in John 1:1. It's all or nothing concerning the Word of God.
Assuming one believes Holy Scripture is divinely inspired, inerrant, infallible, and absolute truth manifested in the person of Jesus Christ, one can now examine what the Bible has to say about divorce without reservation. As we consider Matthew 5:31-32, we must understand the content Jesus is speaking about, which draws us back to Deuteronomy 24:1-4 concerning the Mosaic legislation Moses put into place to bring order to the chaotic practice of divorce that was rampant. In those days, divorce concerning adultery was a non-issue. If one was found guilty of adultery under the law of Moses, the sentence was death by stoning, not an option for divorce. Where the aforementioned "certificate of divorce" came into play was due to the pressing hearts of sinful men looking to exploit their lustful cravings and seeking divorce for any reason whatsoever from their wives. This consequently left many women completely vulnerable and at immense risk. Something had to be done to protect women from frivolous divorce claims which provides the context to which Moses addressed the issue legislatively.
"When a man takes a wife and marries her, if then she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, and she departs out of his house, and if she goes and becomes another man's wife, and the latter man hates her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter man dies, who took her to be his wife, then her former husband, who sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after she has been defiled, for that is an abomination before the LORD. And you shall not bring sin upon the land that the LORD your God is giving you for an inheritance" (Deuteronomy 24:1-4). This law provided legal protection so that if a woman was given a certificate of divorce by her husband, he could not take advantage of her financially. "By charging his wife with some indecency, the first husband acquired her dowry--her father's marriage present to her--when he divorced her. Remarrying, she was given a second dowry. This example then implies that, when her second marriage ended (either through death of through more trivial grounds of divorce), she was able to keep her second dowry. The first husband is forbidden to remarry her to acquire her second dowry. This law protects the woman from exploitation by her first husband" (ESV Study Bible Commentary). Moreover, this legislation provided legal documentation that required a man to establish a viable reason under the title of uncleanness and prove that in the sight of two witnesses, thus eliminating frivolous and superficial justifications for divorce in order to protect the woman.
In order to further understand Jesus' position on divorce, we must cross reference Matthew 5:31-32 with another passage of Scripture where Jesus was directly tested on this issue. "And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful to divorce one's wife for any cause?” He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” They said to him, “Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?” He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery" (Matthew 19:3-9).
Here we come to understand why divorce was allowed, not commanded, and what God's design was from the beginning regarding the union of man and woman. Jesus cites Genesis 2:24 that what God has joined together, man shall not separate except in the event that adultery is present, which would provide the lone exception Jesus cites in Matthew 5:31-32 as allowable for divorce. Note that Jesus clarifies that divorce was never commanded, as the Pharisees held firm to in their own sinful teaching, but is allowed for adultery. And even more so, if a man unlawfully divorces his wife and marries another, he therefore commits adultery and causes his former wife to commit adultery as well if she remarries. The greater point here is that marriage in the eyes of God is a spiritual union, not merely a legal contract. A man and a woman become ONE FLESH in marriage, and that carries a deeper meaning than we could ever fathom. Consider the parallel understanding of how Jesus and the Father are ONE: "Do you not believe that I am in the Father and the Father is in me? The words that I say to you I do not speak on my own authority, but the Father who dwells in me does his works. Believe me that I am in the Father and the Father is in me, or else believe on account of the works themselves" (John 14:10-11). If we understand the meaning of oneness that Christ demonstrated in His union with the Father, we can comprehend the severity with which God established marriage from the beginning. Marriage was, is and forever will be a covenant commitment of one man and one woman unto death in God's economy, which is why Paul so emphatically cautioned regarding adultery, "Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh" (1 Corinthians 6:16).
Jesus states clearly though that if a man or woman divorces their mate for any reason other than [greek: porneia] sexual immorality (i.e. sexual intercourse via adultery, fornication, homosexuality, bestiality, incest, etc.), the one who initiated the divorce commits adultery if he/she remarries and consequently causes the one who received the divorce to commit adultery as well if he/she remarries. There can be no confusion here regarding the implications Jesus declares when divorce is unlawful according to God's standard. This is as grievous a sin as is declared in Scripture and will be judged severely if not confessed and repented of, which supports God's overall position regarding divorce as recorded by the prophet Malachi: "You cover the LORD's altar with tears, with weeping and groaning because he no longer regards the offering or accepts it with favor from your hand. But you say, “Why does he not?” Because the LORD was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth. “For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the LORD, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the LORD of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless" (Malachi 2:13-16 ESV). It is no wonder many Bible translations begin Malachi 2:16 with the emphatic words, "For I hate divorce," says the Lord, the God of Israel" (NAS/NIV/NKJV/NLT/etc). Here we see that God views unlawful divorce as an act of violence due to man taking Deuteronomy 24:1 out of context and using the Mosaic legislation as a justification to divorce for any reason. The Lord will not regard or accept that divorce but judge swiftly and without remorse.
It is imperative to note that while this study is based primarily on Matthew 5:31-32, the apostle Paul does declare one other Biblical ground for divorce to the Corinthian church which is abandonment by the unbeliever. "To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?" (1 Corinthians 7:12-16). Again, per John 1:1, we can safely accept this reason as endorsed by Christ since He is the manifestation and inspiration of God's Word. Keep in mind that Scripture warns against a believer entering into a marital covenant with an unbeliever. "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14). However, Paul's instruction in 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 addresses the fact that if a believer does enter into a marital covenant with an unbeliever, or two unbelievers marry and one becomes a believer after the fact, in neither case is divorce allowed as an option to the believer. In such a case, God desires to use the believer as an instrument of His grace to bring the unbeliever into a saving relationship with Jesus Christ. Biblical divorce is only permissible if the unbeliever completely abandons the marriage altogether, thus providing the believer with the option of Biblical remarriage.
Now there are additional questions that this entire discussion raises regarding what a spouse should do in the event of great sin that is far from frivolous, but does not fall under the banner of adultery; in particular, abuse (physical, verbal, substance, etc). What must a spouse do if found in that circumstance both to protect him/herself and that of children caught in the middle? Paul provides some clarity: "To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife" (1 Corinthians 7:10-11). I believe this provides the option of separation if absolutely necessary (ex: a drunkard who physically abuses at home) to allow for a time of protection and environment of stability while intervention, counsel and reconciliation are pursued. Without question, this decision should absolutely come after immense prayer, discernment, and wise, Biblical counseling. Never should a decision of this magnitude be made without the support of wise (certified if possible), Biblical counselors. Separation, while not an immediate escape route, is allowed if necessary, but that should be a time of deep prayer and spiritual reflection, not an avenue to pursue divorce or seek an adulterous relationship.
Undoubtedly, there is the question of what should be done if you as a believer have taken the initiative and divorced your spouse on unbiblical grounds per Christ's standard. If both you and your ex are unmarried (and both believers), seek Biblical counseling together, reconcile the issues that caused the divorce in the first place, seek genuine repentance and forgiveness, and unite your marriage bond once again. If you or your ex have since remarried, again seek genuine repentance and forgiveness, but do not divorce your current spouse to reunite with your first to avoid causing your second spouse to commit adultery, nor cause your remarried spouse to divorce his/her spouse. Ultimately though, reconciliation between husband and wife is ideal for God can restore and redeem any broken marriage. For the Lord declares, "I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten" (Joel 2:25).
Divorce is arguably one of the most sensitive issues within the church today. It is prevalent within secular society and unfortunately has greatly affected the Christian church at large as well. Regardless of the statistics between secular and non-secular, divorce is rampant and confusion regarding where the Bible stands on this divisive issue is of utmost importance if the body of Christ is to survive this epidemic.
I am comforted as I write this post by the words of Christ who proclaimed, "He who has ears, let him hear" (Matthew 13:9). Preceding this verse, Jesus teaches the parable of the sower which reminds us that the Word of God is sustenance to men and women who proclaim themselves as born-again Christians, and of no value to those who reject its absolute truth. In turn, each of us receives the Word differently in our hearts based on our spiritual maturity and thus applies that truth accordingly to our theological foundation. "And he told them many things in parables, saying: “A sower went out to sow. And as he sowed, some seeds fell along the path, and the birds came and devoured them. Other seeds fell on rocky ground, where they did not have much soil, and immediately they sprang up, since they had no depth of soil, but when the sun rose they were scorched. And since they had no root, they withered away. Other seeds fell among thorns, and the thorns grew up and choked them. Other seeds fell on good soil and produced grain, some a hundredfold, some sixty, some thirty" (Matthew 13:3-8).
Again, it is absolutely critical that before delving into a hot topic such as divorce one must reconcile whether he/she believes God's Word is absolute truth, yet many Christians struggle with reconciling how they truly feel about Scripture. If we are to understand the heart of God, we must embrace John 1:1 as our foundation: "In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God" (John 1:1). If Jesus is who He says He is in the pages of Scripture, even if one is accepting of the New Testament alone, Scripture in its entirety is absolute truth for Jesus was the fulfillment of Old Testament prophesy and teaching. “Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them. For truly, I say to you, until heaven and earth pass away, not an iota, not a dot, will pass from the Law until all is accomplished" (Matthew 5:17-18). Jesus therefore is the manifestation of God's Word and we must reconcile this truth first and foremost in our lives if we are to understand what Scripture says about ANY topic. "And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth" (John 1:14).
In order to understand what Matthew 5:31-32 details, we must grasp the context to which Christ is speaking. As we have learned in our exegetical journey through Matthew 5, Jesus directly addressed Pharisaical teaching and behavior that undermined the true meaning of Scripture. He did not contradict the Law (Old Testament) but clarified its deeper meaning concerning prevalent issues such as anger, lust, divorce, oaths, retaliation, and love for one's enemies. Jesus sought after the roots of sin within our hearts and removed all justifications regarding law-abiding. Murder became a deeper issue concerning anger and bitterness (Matthew 5:21-26). Adultery became a convicting examination to the lustful intent toward another (Matthew 5:27-30). And now divorce is stripped of its "irreconcilable differences/incompatibility" justification and clearly defined on the ground (not including 1 Corinthians 7:12-16) to which one is allowed (not mandated) to divorce, if necessary, according to Jesus in Matthew 5:31-32.
It goes without saying that this study will create a stir within the heart of many because it cuts deep to our core beliefs. It strips away surface discussions and forces us to make a choice regarding what we believe on hot topics that are commonly accepted all around us, such as divorce. "For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart. And no creature is hidden from his sight, but all are naked and exposed to the eyes of him to whom we must give account" (Hebrews 4:12-13). Let us all be soberly reminded that we all will give an account not only for our thoughts and actions, but for what we believe. Scripture demands we make a choice either in favor of God's Word in its entirety or not. For to pick and choose what we want to accept or not accept in Scripture undermines Christ Himself as declared in John 1:1. It's all or nothing concerning the Word of God.
Assuming one believes Holy Scripture is divinely inspired, inerrant, infallible, and absolute truth manifested in the person of Jesus Christ, one can now examine what the Bible has to say about divorce without reservation. As we consider Matthew 5:31-32, we must understand the content Jesus is speaking about, which draws us back to Deuteronomy 24:1-4 concerning the Mosaic legislation Moses put into place to bring order to the chaotic practice of divorce that was rampant. In those days, divorce concerning adultery was a non-issue. If one was found guilty of adultery under the law of Moses, the sentence was death by stoning, not an option for divorce. Where the aforementioned "certificate of divorce" came into play was due to the pressing hearts of sinful men looking to exploit their lustful cravings and seeking divorce for any reason whatsoever from their wives. This consequently left many women completely vulnerable and at immense risk. Something had to be done to protect women from frivolous divorce claims which provides the context to which Moses addressed the issue legislatively.
"When a man takes a wife and marries her, if then she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, and she departs out of his house, and if she goes and becomes another man's wife, and the latter man hates her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter man dies, who took her to be his wife, then her former husband, who sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after she has been defiled, for that is an abomination before the LORD. And you shall not bring sin upon the land that the LORD your God is giving you for an inheritance" (Deuteronomy 24:1-4). This law provided legal protection so that if a woman was given a certificate of divorce by her husband, he could not take advantage of her financially. "By charging his wife with some indecency, the first husband acquired her dowry--her father's marriage present to her--when he divorced her. Remarrying, she was given a second dowry. This example then implies that, when her second marriage ended (either through death of through more trivial grounds of divorce), she was able to keep her second dowry. The first husband is forbidden to remarry her to acquire her second dowry. This law protects the woman from exploitation by her first husband" (ESV Study Bible Commentary). Moreover, this legislation provided legal documentation that required a man to establish a viable reason under the title of uncleanness and prove that in the sight of two witnesses, thus eliminating frivolous and superficial justifications for divorce in order to protect the woman.
In order to further understand Jesus' position on divorce, we must cross reference Matthew 5:31-32 with another passage of Scripture where Jesus was directly tested on this issue. "And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful to divorce one's wife for any cause?” He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” They said to him, “Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?” He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery" (Matthew 19:3-9).
Here we come to understand why divorce was allowed, not commanded, and what God's design was from the beginning regarding the union of man and woman. Jesus cites Genesis 2:24 that what God has joined together, man shall not separate except in the event that adultery is present, which would provide the lone exception Jesus cites in Matthew 5:31-32 as allowable for divorce. Note that Jesus clarifies that divorce was never commanded, as the Pharisees held firm to in their own sinful teaching, but is allowed for adultery. And even more so, if a man unlawfully divorces his wife and marries another, he therefore commits adultery and causes his former wife to commit adultery as well if she remarries. The greater point here is that marriage in the eyes of God is a spiritual union, not merely a legal contract. A man and a woman become ONE FLESH in marriage, and that carries a deeper meaning than we could ever fathom. Consider the parallel understanding of how Jesus and the Father are ONE: "Do you not believe that I am in the Father and the Father is in me? The words that I say to you I do not speak on my own authority, but the Father who dwells in me does his works. Believe me that I am in the Father and the Father is in me, or else believe on account of the works themselves" (John 14:10-11). If we understand the meaning of oneness that Christ demonstrated in His union with the Father, we can comprehend the severity with which God established marriage from the beginning. Marriage was, is and forever will be a covenant commitment of one man and one woman unto death in God's economy, which is why Paul so emphatically cautioned regarding adultery, "Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh" (1 Corinthians 6:16).
Jesus states clearly though that if a man or woman divorces their mate for any reason other than [greek: porneia] sexual immorality (i.e. sexual intercourse via adultery, fornication, homosexuality, bestiality, incest, etc.), the one who initiated the divorce commits adultery if he/she remarries and consequently causes the one who received the divorce to commit adultery as well if he/she remarries. There can be no confusion here regarding the implications Jesus declares when divorce is unlawful according to God's standard. This is as grievous a sin as is declared in Scripture and will be judged severely if not confessed and repented of, which supports God's overall position regarding divorce as recorded by the prophet Malachi: "You cover the LORD's altar with tears, with weeping and groaning because he no longer regards the offering or accepts it with favor from your hand. But you say, “Why does he not?” Because the LORD was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth. “For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the LORD, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the LORD of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless" (Malachi 2:13-16 ESV). It is no wonder many Bible translations begin Malachi 2:16 with the emphatic words, "For I hate divorce," says the Lord, the God of Israel" (NAS/NIV/NKJV/NLT/etc). Here we see that God views unlawful divorce as an act of violence due to man taking Deuteronomy 24:1 out of context and using the Mosaic legislation as a justification to divorce for any reason. The Lord will not regard or accept that divorce but judge swiftly and without remorse.
It is imperative to note that while this study is based primarily on Matthew 5:31-32, the apostle Paul does declare one other Biblical ground for divorce to the Corinthian church which is abandonment by the unbeliever. "To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?" (1 Corinthians 7:12-16). Again, per John 1:1, we can safely accept this reason as endorsed by Christ since He is the manifestation and inspiration of God's Word. Keep in mind that Scripture warns against a believer entering into a marital covenant with an unbeliever. "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14). However, Paul's instruction in 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 addresses the fact that if a believer does enter into a marital covenant with an unbeliever, or two unbelievers marry and one becomes a believer after the fact, in neither case is divorce allowed as an option to the believer. In such a case, God desires to use the believer as an instrument of His grace to bring the unbeliever into a saving relationship with Jesus Christ. Biblical divorce is only permissible if the unbeliever completely abandons the marriage altogether, thus providing the believer with the option of Biblical remarriage.
Now there are additional questions that this entire discussion raises regarding what a spouse should do in the event of great sin that is far from frivolous, but does not fall under the banner of adultery; in particular, abuse (physical, verbal, substance, etc). What must a spouse do if found in that circumstance both to protect him/herself and that of children caught in the middle? Paul provides some clarity: "To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife" (1 Corinthians 7:10-11). I believe this provides the option of separation if absolutely necessary (ex: a drunkard who physically abuses at home) to allow for a time of protection and environment of stability while intervention, counsel and reconciliation are pursued. Without question, this decision should absolutely come after immense prayer, discernment, and wise, Biblical counseling. Never should a decision of this magnitude be made without the support of wise (certified if possible), Biblical counselors. Separation, while not an immediate escape route, is allowed if necessary, but that should be a time of deep prayer and spiritual reflection, not an avenue to pursue divorce or seek an adulterous relationship.
Undoubtedly, there is the question of what should be done if you as a believer have taken the initiative and divorced your spouse on unbiblical grounds per Christ's standard. If both you and your ex are unmarried (and both believers), seek Biblical counseling together, reconcile the issues that caused the divorce in the first place, seek genuine repentance and forgiveness, and unite your marriage bond once again. If you or your ex have since remarried, again seek genuine repentance and forgiveness, but do not divorce your current spouse to reunite with your first to avoid causing your second spouse to commit adultery, nor cause your remarried spouse to divorce his/her spouse. Ultimately though, reconciliation between husband and wife is ideal for God can restore and redeem any broken marriage. For the Lord declares, "I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten" (Joel 2:25).
In summary:
- Biblical divorce is allowed for only two reasons: 1. Adultery (physical, sexual union with another male or female, homosexuality, bestiality, incest, etc.); or 2. Abandonment by an unbelieving spouse. (Matthew 5:31-32, 19:3-9; 1 Corinthians 7:12-16)
- Separation is allowed under extreme circumstances as a time for prayer, counsel and intervention, and as a temporary solution for the goal of marital reconciliation to the separated spouse. (1 Corinthians 7:12-16)
- He/She who initiates divorce on unbiblical grounds, causes both parties to commit adultery if either remarry. (Matthew 5:31-32)
- Reconciliation for an unbiblical divorce is highly recommended with the aid of wise, Biblical counseling assisting throughout, bathed in attitudes of humility, repentance, and Biblical, positive change assuming both are believers. (1 Corinthians 7:12-16; 2 Corinthians 6:14)
- Remarriage is allowed for the faithful spouse when divorce is on Biblical grounds (see first bullet point). The unfaithful spouse must first seek genuine repentance and forgiveness for sins unto God and the same toward the faithful spouse for reconciliation if the faithful spouse agrees to save the marriage. (Matthew 5:31-32, 19:3-9)
- Remarriage is allowed when a spouse dies. (Romans 7:1-3)
- Remarriage is possible for a repentant spouse who caused a divorce and sought reconciliation of the marriage but was unable to due to the faithful spouse remarrying, unwilling to reconcile, proving to be an unbeliever, or is deceased.
- For further consideration and perspective on the topic of divorce and remarriage, go to: www.gracechurch.org/ministries/Resource.aspx?88
One over-riding question in this entire examination is why God would even allow divorce in the day of Moses if that was not His will nor intention from the beginning. Jesus provides the answer: "Because of your hardness of heart" (Matthew 19:8). This answer should strike a cord within every human heart for what man or woman can proclaim that his/her heart has never been hardened at some point. Hardness of heart is a point of judgment by God when we close ourselves off from the truth of His Word and judge for ourselves what is right or wrong. For Jesus highlights this hypocritical thinking by calling out divorce as a point of hardheartedness when it is decided outside of adultery or abandonment by the unbeliever. "Therefore you have no excuse, O man, every one of you who judges. For in passing judgment on another you condemn yourself, because you, the judge, practice the very same things. We know that the judgment of God rightly falls on those who practice such things. Do you suppose, O man—you who judge those who practice such things and yet do them yourself—that you will escape the judgment of God? Or do you presume on the riches of his kindness and forbearance and patience, not knowing that God's kindness is meant to lead you to repentance? But because of your hard and impenitent heart you are storing up wrath for yourself on the day of wrath when God's righteous judgment will be revealed" (Romans 2:1-5).
Let it be said however that even adultery in particular is not an unpardonable sin. "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9). Be encouraged! For without question a marriage completely desolated by adultery can be redeemed, but it takes genuine repentance on the part of the offender, confession and acknowledgement of sin, 100% ownership of the sin without any justification of blame-shifting whatsoever, an unwavering desire and application of change consistently over time, and a humble attitude of heart that is focused on seeking forgiveness and reconciliation unto the authority and instruction of God's Word. Ideally, certified Biblical counseling is mandatory within this process, but again, reconciliation can occur if the offender applies these truths and the offended spouse is willing to forgive and reconcile. Yes, trust has been completely annihilated, but it can be rebuilt over time with accountability and consistency of a changed, repentant heart bearing the fruits of the spirit. Keep in mind though that this recipe for success will not in any way guarantee that the marriage will be reconciled. There are immense consequences for the sinful choice of an adulterous decision, some permanent. And while some offended men or women may choose to forgive and reconcile with their spouse despite adultery, others will be so consumed by a level of pain and betrayal that they feel they cannot overcome and will choose to divorce. And as such, the offended party is given that right due to the sinful actions of the adulterous spouse and the mandate of Matthew 5:31-32 proclaimed by Christ.
Therefore, divorce may inevitably result despite a Biblical course of repentant action by the adulterous spouse, but it does not pardon the calling of Scripture to confess, repent, and sin no more regardless of whether the marriage will be reconciled or not. The first step in owning one's sin is reconciling first and foremost to God. That is always our first course of action for He is our Creator, Savior and eternal judge, and He lovingly offers unconditional grace, mercy and forgiveness to those who humbly confess and repent of their sins. "Early in the morning he came again to the temple. All the people came to him, and he sat down and taught them. The scribes and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in adultery, and placing her in the midst they said to him, “Teacher, this woman has been caught in the act of adultery. Now in the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. So what do you say?” This they said to test him, that they might have some charge to bring against him. Jesus bent down and wrote with his finger on the ground. And as they continued to ask him, he stood up and said to them, “Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her.” And once more he bent down and wrote on the ground. But when they heard it, they went away one by one, beginning with the older ones, and Jesus was left alone with the woman standing before him. Jesus stood up and said to her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?” She said, “No one, Lord.” And Jesus said, “Neither do I condemn you; go, and from now on sin no more" (John 8:2-11). The second step is always reconciling unto your faithful spouse whom you have sinned against in obedience to Scripture. "So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift" (Matthew 5:23-24).
My prayer is that this humble attempt to unpack the issue of divorce has not fallen on deaf ears or hardened hearts but has been enlightening to those who may never have understood all that Scripture has to say concerning divorce, and in some cases (by the power of the Holy Spirit) convicting to those who may be struggling with the decision of divorce within their own current or past marriages. My desire is simply to present the truth of God's Word as accurately as possible speaking truth in love, and I pray that has been accomplished to the best of my ability. I encourage us all to examine the Scriptures for ourselves to ensure that our theology concerning divorce or any other issue aligns with what the Scriptures say if indeed we proclaim ourselves as born-again Christians. For "the law of the LORD is perfect, reviving the soul; the testimony of the LORD is sure, making wise the simple; the precepts of the LORD are right, rejoicing the heart; the commandment of the LORD is pure, enlightening the eyes; the fear of the LORD is clean, enduring forever; the rules of the LORD are true, and righteous altogether. More to be desired are they than gold, even much fine gold; sweeter also than honey and drippings of the honeycomb. Moreover, by them is your servant warned; in keeping them there is great reward. Who can discern his errors? Declare me innocent from hidden faults. Keep back your servant also from presumptuous sins; let them not have dominion over me! Then I shall be blameless, and innocent of great transgression. Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O LORD, my rock and my redeemer" (Psalm 19:7-14).
Let it be said however that even adultery in particular is not an unpardonable sin. "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9). Be encouraged! For without question a marriage completely desolated by adultery can be redeemed, but it takes genuine repentance on the part of the offender, confession and acknowledgement of sin, 100% ownership of the sin without any justification of blame-shifting whatsoever, an unwavering desire and application of change consistently over time, and a humble attitude of heart that is focused on seeking forgiveness and reconciliation unto the authority and instruction of God's Word. Ideally, certified Biblical counseling is mandatory within this process, but again, reconciliation can occur if the offender applies these truths and the offended spouse is willing to forgive and reconcile. Yes, trust has been completely annihilated, but it can be rebuilt over time with accountability and consistency of a changed, repentant heart bearing the fruits of the spirit. Keep in mind though that this recipe for success will not in any way guarantee that the marriage will be reconciled. There are immense consequences for the sinful choice of an adulterous decision, some permanent. And while some offended men or women may choose to forgive and reconcile with their spouse despite adultery, others will be so consumed by a level of pain and betrayal that they feel they cannot overcome and will choose to divorce. And as such, the offended party is given that right due to the sinful actions of the adulterous spouse and the mandate of Matthew 5:31-32 proclaimed by Christ.
Therefore, divorce may inevitably result despite a Biblical course of repentant action by the adulterous spouse, but it does not pardon the calling of Scripture to confess, repent, and sin no more regardless of whether the marriage will be reconciled or not. The first step in owning one's sin is reconciling first and foremost to God. That is always our first course of action for He is our Creator, Savior and eternal judge, and He lovingly offers unconditional grace, mercy and forgiveness to those who humbly confess and repent of their sins. "Early in the morning he came again to the temple. All the people came to him, and he sat down and taught them. The scribes and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in adultery, and placing her in the midst they said to him, “Teacher, this woman has been caught in the act of adultery. Now in the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. So what do you say?” This they said to test him, that they might have some charge to bring against him. Jesus bent down and wrote with his finger on the ground. And as they continued to ask him, he stood up and said to them, “Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her.” And once more he bent down and wrote on the ground. But when they heard it, they went away one by one, beginning with the older ones, and Jesus was left alone with the woman standing before him. Jesus stood up and said to her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?” She said, “No one, Lord.” And Jesus said, “Neither do I condemn you; go, and from now on sin no more" (John 8:2-11). The second step is always reconciling unto your faithful spouse whom you have sinned against in obedience to Scripture. "So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift" (Matthew 5:23-24).
My prayer is that this humble attempt to unpack the issue of divorce has not fallen on deaf ears or hardened hearts but has been enlightening to those who may never have understood all that Scripture has to say concerning divorce, and in some cases (by the power of the Holy Spirit) convicting to those who may be struggling with the decision of divorce within their own current or past marriages. My desire is simply to present the truth of God's Word as accurately as possible speaking truth in love, and I pray that has been accomplished to the best of my ability. I encourage us all to examine the Scriptures for ourselves to ensure that our theology concerning divorce or any other issue aligns with what the Scriptures say if indeed we proclaim ourselves as born-again Christians. For "the law of the LORD is perfect, reviving the soul; the testimony of the LORD is sure, making wise the simple; the precepts of the LORD are right, rejoicing the heart; the commandment of the LORD is pure, enlightening the eyes; the fear of the LORD is clean, enduring forever; the rules of the LORD are true, and righteous altogether. More to be desired are they than gold, even much fine gold; sweeter also than honey and drippings of the honeycomb. Moreover, by them is your servant warned; in keeping them there is great reward. Who can discern his errors? Declare me innocent from hidden faults. Keep back your servant also from presumptuous sins; let them not have dominion over me! Then I shall be blameless, and innocent of great transgression. Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O LORD, my rock and my redeemer" (Psalm 19:7-14).
Monday, December 23, 2013
Matthew 2:16-18 (Christmas Devotion)
“Then
Herod, when he saw that he had been tricked by the wise men, became furious,
and he sent and killed all the male children in Bethlehem and in all that
region who were two years old or under, according to the time that he had ascertained
from the wise men. Then was fulfilled what was spoken by the prophet Jeremiah:
‘A voice was heard in Ramah, weeping and loud lamentation, Rachel weeping for
her children; she refused to be comforted, because they are no more.’”
Christmas is arguably the most celebrated holiday of the
year, filled with good tidings and
well-wishes, colorful lights and glamorous decorations. We celebrate Christmas
because of the birth of Jesus Christ—born of the virgin Mary through the power
of the Holy Spirit, who came to earth in order to save mankind from eternal
damnation. “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever
believes in him should not perish but have eternal life” (John 3:16). Yet while Christmas invokes warm, fuzzy
feelings like a cup of hot chocolate on a cold wintry night beside a roaring
fireplace, the harsh reality is that Christmas came over 2,000 years ago with
both rejoicing and mourning. Matthew's Gospel account brings a somber realization of the enormity
of Christ’s purpose to sacrifice His life for all mankind. We would be hard-pressed to find this passage portrayed in a Christmas pageant nor would it ever be remembered as much as the angels, shepherds and wise men when
the Christmas story is recanted. However, God
inspired Matthew to pen these verses as a stern reminder and humble warning
to all that from the beginning, the birth of Jesus Christ came in opposition to
the selfish desires of man, both then and now, and we would be remiss to forget what happened in Bethlehem. Many fathers and mothers were physically forced to watch their precious baby boys being slaughtered
before their very eyes, not as gifts but as sacrifices to the secular theology
of sinful mankind (emulated through Herod’s decision) which elevated self-preservation.
That struggle is ever before us as Christians today. Standing for the absolute truth of Scripture
in today’s American culture is not simply old-fashioned or unpopular but hate language, and we are foolish to nonchalantly disregard the truth of that statement. No, the tide of post-modernistic thinking
where truth is relevant and political correctness supersedes absolute truth is
crashing upon the shoreline of our faith, and we must decide whether we'll
stand boldly and weather the storm or be washed away in the secular
current. The recent controversy
surrounding Phil Robertson of Duck Dynasty is a perfect example of the
vulnerable state of our faith in today’s culture. Yet praise God that Phil is unwavering in
elevating what Scripture declares as truth. It is emblematic of Jesus’ explanation regarding the Parable of the
sower found in Matthew 13:1-9. “Hear then the parable of the sower: When
anyone hears the word of the kingdom and does not understand it, the evil one
comes and snatches away what has been sown in his heart. This is what was sown
along the path. As for what was sown on rocky ground, this is the one who hears
the word and immediately receives it with joy, yet he has no root in himself,
but endures for a while, and when tribulation or persecution arises on account
of the word, immediately he falls away. As for what was sown among thorns, this
is the one who hears the word, but the cares of the world and the deceitfulness
of riches choke the word, and it proves unfruitful. As for what was sown on
good soil, this is the one who hears the word and understands it. He indeed
bears fruit and yields, in one case a hundredfold, in another sixty, and in
another thirty” (Matthew
13:18-23).
“As
for what was sown on rocky ground, this is the one who hears the word and
immediately receives it with joy, yet he has no root in himself, but endures
for a while, and when tribulation or persecution arises on account of the
word, immediately he falls away.” My fellow Christian
brothers and sisters, on account of the Word, we will be persecuted. And because Jesus IS the Word, we must
realize we cannot draw lines in the sand regarding what we like and don’t like in the Word. It is a package deal and
rest assured, 100% controversial. “For the word of God is living and active,
sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of
spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of
the heart” (Hebrews 4:12). As born-again Christians, we do not have to draw a line in the sand between right (righteousness) and wrong
(sin), for Jesus already has by creating boundary lines of judgment
within the pages of Scripture. Therefore, we must stand confidently knowing Jesus is truth and came to “bear witness to the truth” (John 18:37) of His Word. “So everyone who acknowledges me before men,
I also will acknowledge before my Father who is in heaven, but whoever denies
me before men, I also will deny before my Father who is in heaven” (Matthew 10:32-33).
This Christmas season we must decide whether we stand for
truth. As born-again believers who have made decisions to follow Christ and make Him Lord and King over their
lives, we must understand that in accepting Christ we are accepting His Word as ABSOLUTE TRUTH. We cannot accept Jesus as Lord and not endorse,
support and believe every word of the Bible as absolute truth, because “in the beginning was the Word,
and the Word was with God, and the Word was God” (John 1:1). Therefore, we must decide whether we believe that truth or not because Scripture is unwavering on the issue. Jesus declared to Pilate in the midst of
impending death, “Everyone who is of the truth listens to my voice,” (John 18:37) and we must decide whose
voice we will listen to, the world (culture) or Jesus.
Make no mistake, Matthew 2:16-18 drives home the enormity of
salvation because accepting Jesus requires we accept the sacrifice that comes with it. Accepting that Jesus was born of the virgin
Mary requires we accept the sacrificial slaughter which came in opposition to
the glorious birth of Jesus Christ. For if we stand for Jesus, we must be willing to withstand the overwhelming tide
of persecution and opposition which comes with obeying His Word. Therefore, will we shy away and crumble under the
weight of political correctness to remain silent or endorse cultural
controversial issues the Bible declares as sinful? Or will we declare like
Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego who were threatened with fiery death, to denounce
God and bow before the golden image King Nebuchadnezzar created? “Then
Nebuchadnezzar in furious rage commanded that Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego
be brought. So they brought these men before the king. Nebuchadnezzar answered
and said to them, ‘Is it true, O Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, that you do
not serve my gods or worship the golden image that I have set up? Now if you
are ready when you hear the sound of the horn, pipe, lyre, trigon, harp,
bagpipe, and every kind of music, to fall down and worship the image that I
have made, well and good. But if you do not worship, you shall immediately be
cast into a burning fiery furnace. And who is the god who will deliver you out
of my hands?’ Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego answered and said to the king, ‘O
Nebuchadnezzar, we have no need to answer you in this matter. If this be so,
our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the burning fiery furnace, and
he will deliver us out of your hand, O king. But if not, be it known to you, O
king, that we will not serve your gods or worship the golden image that you
have set up’” (Daniel 3:13-18).
Therefore, are we willing to make the ultimate sacrifice for
Christ? It is the only question which should be before the heart of every man, woman and child this Christmas season. For in choosing to rejoice in Christ’s birth, we must realize He came into the world to be the ultimate sacrifice like
those baby boys in Bethlehem who were slaughtered because of the threat He represented to sinful man bent on dismissing truth. “Now therefore fear the LORD and
serve him in sincerity and in faithfulness. Put away the gods that your fathers
served beyond the River and in Egypt, and serve the LORD. And if it is evil in
your eyes to serve the LORD, choose this day whom you will serve, whether the
gods your fathers served in the region beyond the River, or the gods of the
Amorites in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the
LORD” (Joshua 24:14-15).
I fully empathize with the struggle of accepting
God’s Word as absolute truth because it unashamedly judges every sin and leaves no
room for justification or rationalizations which contradict what Scripture
declares. However, we cannot fall into a trap
of only accepting God as love and not wrath. For it was by God’s judgmental wrath on sin that we have Jesus to thank
for being the ultimate sacrifice and providing salvation for us in spite of our
sin which deserved wrath and eternal separation from God. “For the wrath of God is revealed from
heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who by their
unrighteousness suppress the truth” (Romans
1:18). “But because of your hard and
impenitent heart you are storing up wrath for yourself on the day of wrath when
God's righteous judgment will be revealed” (Romans 2:5). “But for those who are self-seeking and do
not obey the truth, but obey unrighteousness, there will be wrath and fury”
(Romans 2:8). “But if our
unrighteousness serves to show the righteousness of God, what shall we say?
That God is unrighteous to inflict wrath on us?” (Romans 3:5). “For
the law brings wrath, but where there is no law there is no transgression”
(Romans 4:15). “For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the
ungodly. For one will scarcely die for a righteous person—though perhaps for a
good person one would dare even to die—but God shows his love for us in that
while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Since, therefore, we have now
been justified by his blood, much more shall we be saved by him from the wrath
of God” (Romans 5:6-9).
Bottom-line, our lives here on earth all come down to the
enormity of what or who we define as our personal truth, and as Christians, whether
we accept God’s truth as absolute in its entirety. We must be clear on the ramifications of either not accepting the Bible as
truth or as perhaps is common today, accepting most but not all of Scripture as
truth. John 1:1 states plainly that
Scripture (i.e. the Bible) and Jesus are interchangeable, one in the same, the
lifeblood of one another, and to not
accept even a single word of Scripture as absolute truth is to denounce Jesus
Himself. For God
is with us and we are obligated in submission to Jesus as Lord of our lives to
fully accept Him and His Word because again, they are one in the same according
to John 1:1, John 18:37, etc. This
Christmas I pray every man, woman and child would not forget or dismiss
the sacrificial reality of Matthew 2:16-18, because in truth (and as we are reminded in this amazing song
and video) a baby came and everything changed for eternity.
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