"You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell."
The Bible has much to say about the cravings of the flesh and sexual immorality/idolatry. It is the predominant sin associated with males from a physical standpoint based on the intensity of testosterone men possess within our bodies; and in essence, the accepted stereotype that mankind generally agrees with. Men passionately desire sex with great intensity most often. Therefore, greater warnings are required for men to intentionally guard themselves when it comes to physical lust and desire for sexual satisfaction. Whether fair or not, sex has always been and undoubtedly will always be the most relevant sin issue men face. Where men face the greatest challenges are in the areas of transparency and vulnerability that defuse isolation and expose secrecy.
In order to apply the divine inspiration of absolute truth Christ professes, a man must be willing to face his demons and accept the fact that what he feasts his eyes upon can easily become the object of his desire. Jesus warned, "Your eye is the lamp of your body. When your eye is healthy, your whole body is full of light, but when it is bad, your body is full of darkness" (Luke 11:34). In our present culture where sex sells and women are indoctrinated from an early age to look a certain way in order to be pleasing to a man's eye, men are equally persuaded to lust after an air-brushed manifestation of the female anatomy (in a heterosexual example) that is most pleasing to them. Therefore, beauty is diminished from that of a gentle and quiet spirit to a physical standard only, glorified by a chest, waist and hip measurements which fits the culture's standard of sexual perfection.
When men fall prey to this depravity of thinking, truth is completely relative to whatever a man wants it to be. It becomes solely based upon experiential thinking interwoven among a web of false reality and fantasy, and a justification of desires masked under the facade of needs rather than the resolute promises and warnings of Holy Scripture. A man would be best served to heed the warning of John who wrote, "Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life—is not from the Father but is from the world. And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever" (1 John 2:15-17). True satisfaction will never be found within the pleasures of the world because they are temporary, for beauty fades over time and evolves through a downward spiral of depravity and vulgarity within our culture. Therefore, why would a man pursue it with such passion and resolve when he knows full well the destructive consequences of his actions? Is he not aware of the danger which lies before him, especially after he has fallen into the same trap, time after time without recompense?
There is no passage of Scripture that convicts me more than this for the level of guilt and shame I feel for my utter failure in relation to it. I am permanently marked like a scarlet letter, completely self-inflicted, because I have not been able to maintain self control more often than not when it comes to resisting impure sexual thoughts and actions throughout my life. "A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls" (Proverbs 25:28). And regardless of the forgiveness I have and continue to receive by my Lord and Savior through repentance, the memories of who I was and the sins I formerly committed predominately remain at the forefront of my mind each day. True, with time memories fade (which I consider a priceless gift of mercy from the Father), and I am fully aware that forgiveness of self also plays into the equation. But I have learned that God purposely does not grant "sin amnesia" for the sole reason that what brings us low to the foot of the cross is the single most imperative tool God uses for our benefit. If I forget who I was, I will never appreciate the gift of grace God gave and continues to repeatedly give me in spite of myself.
As a self-proclaimed, born-again Christian man, it is my duty and obligation to heed the warnings of Scripture unconditionally. I do not have the right to pick and choose what I believe is true and worth applying, and what can be minimized or written off as irrelevant to today's culture. God does not give that option for it minimizes Jesus Christ who is the manifestation of the Word itself. Consider this admonition of the apostle Paul as a foundation for God's perspective on the issue of sexual immorality: "'All things are lawful for me,' but not all things are helpful. 'All things are lawful for me,' but I will not be dominated by anything. 'Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food'—and God will destroy both one and the other. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. And God raised the Lord and will also raise us up by his power. Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, 'The two will become one flesh.' But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body" (1 Corinthians 6:12-20).
Scripture declares, "But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks intently at his natural face in a mirror. For he looks at himself and goes away and at once forgets what he was like. But the one who looks into the perfect law, the law of liberty, and perseveres, being no hearer who forgets but a doer who acts, he will be blessed in his doing" (James 1:22-25). A man can never gain victory over the lust of his flesh without embracing Scripture as absolute truth and applying it unconditionally with full submission and obedience to its authority. Truly, it seems too simple a reality that victory begins with truth, but in fact truth has always been the answer because Christ himself is God's manifestation of truth in the flesh. Every man must wrestle first and foremost though with two pivotal questions: 1. Will he will accept Christ as truth? and 2. Will he will testify to the truth of Christ in his life by not only standing for what the Word says and represents (hearing) but for the freedom it provides (doing) when he lives it out for God's glory?
Let us begin with the foundation: "In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God" (John 1:1), "and the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth" (John 1:14), "for the law was given through Moses; grace and truth came through Jesus Christ" (John 1:14-17). Jesus cannot be separated from any sin discussion because He innocently died for sin in order to reconcile mankind unto the Father. "He committed no sin, neither was deceit found in his mouth" (1 Peter 2:22). "But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved—and raised us up with him and seated us with him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, so that in the coming ages he might show the immeasurable riches of his grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus" (Ephesians 2:4-7). Accepting Christ is not simply a state of mind but a way of living that charts the course of a man's life. Without it, he has no compass to guide him nor illuminate his wayward attempts of charting his own course in defiance of God's absolute truth.
Thus in considering Matthew 5:27-30, once acceptance of Christ as absolute truth has been established, a man must confront his tempestuous process/tendencies of yielding to sin in order to understand what his degradation progression looks like when his lust becomes adultery. In my experience, the process essentially follows this cyclical pattern:
1. His natural propensity to sexual stimulation by means of his flesh.
2. Temptations that stir his mind with promises of pleasure and satisfaction.
3. Methods which provide a medium, outlet or forum for acting out on his lust.
4. Consideration of the "balance scale" between perceived pleasure and consequences.
5. Acceptance/acknowledgement of what he knows to be wrong yet proceeds anyway.
6. Hormonal escalation to the point where mental fantasy results in physical climax.
7. "Moment of clarity" where his false satisfaction is replaced by the reality of his sin.
8. Guilt, shame and (in reality) empty promises to finally turn away from his sin.
9. Period of time where judgment is distracted until his sin desire is stirred and the cyclical pattern begins again.
While most men can logically follow the pattern of this list against their own experiences as true on the whole, the reality is that the "balance scale" and "moment of clarity" typically do not garner enough attention and prayerful consideration. The truth of the matter is that God gives opportunities for accountability to men struggling with lustful temptations. King David echoed this emphatically and without reservation following the consequences of his adultery with Bathsheba and subsequent murder of her husband, Uriah, when he plainly stated, "For I know my transgressions, and my sin is ever before me" (Psalm 51:3). How refreshing are the pages of Scripture when the reality of my heart's condition is perfectly united with an imperfect man, who for the most part sought God's will throughout his life, yet struggled with sin progressions I personally relate to. David understood the magnitude of his sin. "Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight, so that you may be justified in your words and blameless in your judgment" (Psalm 51:4). Therefore, he humbled himself before the judgment of a Holy God, who forgave him because of his solemn and reverent plea of repentance by fully accepting and taking responsibility for his sins. "Have mercy on me, O God, according to your steadfast love; according to your abundant mercy blot out my transgressions. Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity, and cleanse me from my sin!" (Psalm 51:1-2).
I have personally not found one God-fearing, Bible-believing man who struggles with sexual immorality (which is a glorified term for lust and sexual sin) confess that he does not know the balance scale more personally than he cares to admit, nor refutes that the moment of clarity occurs when he sees the disparity between his flesh and the enormity of God's holiness more clearly than ever. In that spiritually clarifying moment following the object of his obsession (typically, physical release/climax), his sin has been illuminated for what it truly is and he is nakedly ashamed and guilty for desiring what was wrong all along. It is as if the clouds immediately roll back, darkness is scattered, and the light of judgment strikes with a convicting blow. Why we as men do not hold fast to these moments of life-altering truth that emphatically shout, "Choose to sin, choose to suffer," is beyond comprehension! But I know this is undoubtedly tried and true because I've personally lived and breathed its reality countless days that have morphed into years and decades. I've weighed my lustful sin to the point of scheming my exit strategy in the throws and aftermath of adultery, so I know full well how warped the mind can become even for one who professes himself to be a follower of Jesus Christ. How wretched and hypocritical I have been far too often, but how gracious and merciful is the God I serve that would lift me out of the ashes and declare that my life, though unworthy of being called a child of God, would be of great value to Him. That is truth that defies all understanding because I have lived a life of "being sick and tired of being sick and tired" to the point where I simply wanted the weight of guilt, shame and remorse lifted at all cost, even if it meant exposing my secret sins and risking all my comforts and securities. I intimately and regretfully know what it feels like to sin grievously and have to face judgment and immense consequences. Yet in my depravity, God graciously continues to extend me an invitation for the forgiveness of my sins that simply declares, "Neither do I condemn you; go, and from not on sin no more" (John 8:11b). My heart can only respond in praise and worship, "Oh, the depth of the riches and wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable are his judgments and how inscrutable his ways!" (Romans 11:33).
Truth is the only hope we have for breaking our respective sin cycles. Daily study and examination of the Scriptures with an open spirit and a teachable heart are the first course of action. Again, it seems simple, but truth is the starting point. Consider the 9-point pattern listed previously with what the apostle Paul writes to the church in Corinth as a warning for essentially knowing what is right yet choosing sin over truth: "For I do not want you to be unaware, brothers, that our fathers were all under the cloud, and all passed through the sea, and all were baptized into Moses in the cloud and in the sea, and all ate the same spiritual food, and all drank the same spiritual drink. For they drank from the spiritual Rock that followed them, and the Rock was Christ. Nevertheless, with most of them God was not pleased, for they were overthrown in the wilderness. Now these things took place as examples for us, that we might not desire evil as they did. Do not be idolaters as some of them were; as it is written, “The people sat down to eat and drink and rose up to play.” We must not indulge in sexual immorality as some of them did, and twenty-three thousand fell in a single day. We must not put Christ to the test, as some of them did and were destroyed by serpents, nor grumble, as some of them did and were destroyed by the Destroyer. Now these things happened to them as an example, but they were written down for our instruction, on whom the end of the ages has come. Therefore let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall. No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. Therefore, my beloved, flee from idolatry" (1 Corinthians 10:1-14).
It is imperative that we understand that temptations will always be present because we unfortunately live in a fallen world. Yet in the midst of that truth, God provides a way of escape for those who trust in Him and are willing to take heed lest they fall. When we come to our balance scale moments, we have not yet crossed the line of committing sin...but we are dangerously close. It is in those moments that we need to remember the words of James: "Let no one say when he is tempted, 'I am being tempted by God,' for God cannot be tempted with evil, and he himself tempts no one. But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death" (James 1:12-15). Temptation becomes sin when it is considered and thus yielded to. When we yield, we obey the cravings of our flesh and quench the Spirit that seeks to guard us from our own demise at the workings of our hands.
The moment of clarity following whatever method of climax a man receives (typically ejaculation) is essentially the moment we are joined with Adam and Eve when they bit into the fruit from the tree of knowledge. We see the enormity and the rawness of our sin as they did and immediately seek to cover ourselves from the Spirit's conviction, as if it were foolishly possible to hide our sin from God. We also witness how our sin pierces the flesh of Christ with deep severity. We see how our sin severs our fellowship with God and yet we inevitably end up back in the same sin cycle sooner than we care to admit. Many Christian brothers I have held accountability with over the years have echoed and affirmed the truth of that moment as we have identified in unison that the moment of clarity is absolutely real and in essence, spiritually haunting due to the level of conviction God allows us to experience. How then do we cast aside those moments with empty promises of change rather than full surrender to turn away and never return to our depravity? Why do we know full well that "the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak" (Mark 13:38b), yet ignore it as if we never read this teaching proclaimed before?
I wrestle with these questions daily. And while it can be detrimental to live in a state of guilt and shame after I have been forgiven and accepted Christ's sacrifice for my sin, it can be a turning point or spiritual marker when I realize that while I still am a sinner, I have been made new, washed by the blood of the lamb. Therefore, as a born again Christian, I have the Spirit of the living God dwelling inside of me, enabling me to choose righteousness over sinful tendencies when I trust in the Spirit and not in my flesh. I am affirmed for I follow a Saviour who can relate to my struggles, "For because he himself has suffered when tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted" (Hebrews 2:18). In my inner-dialogue moments where I am balancing the scale of good and evil, I must remember, "Since then we have a great high priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus, the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need" (Hebrews 4:14-16).
The reality is this, Christ calls us as men to turn away from lust in every form and fashion. Considering our wandering eyes that are easily swayed by the female anatomy (unless one is skewed toward the temptation of same-sex attraction), we must hold to the truth of Job: "I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I gaze at a virgin?" (Job 31:1). We must remember that opportunities will always abound when we are led by our sexual cravings: "For the lips of a forbidden woman drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil, but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps follow the path to Sheol" (Proverbs 5:3-5). We must not accept fantasy as truth and allow the false sexual appetite personified in pornography to become our sexual expectations in marriage. We must see past the seductive mask that hides the wrath reserved for our wayward hearts. "With much seductive speech she persuades him; with her smooth talk she compels him. All at once he follows her, as an ox goes to the slaughter, or as a stag is caught fast till an arrow pierces its liver; as a bird rushes into a snare; he does not know that it will cost him his life" (Proverbs 7:21-23).
Most importantly, we must consider these convicting questions: "Can a man carry fire next to his chest and his clothes not be burned? Or can one walk on hot coals and his feet not be scorched? So is he who goes in to his neighbor's wife; none who touches her will go unpunished" (Proverbs 6:27-29). Those of us who have tested the merit of these questions know firsthand the consequences of sin that destroy a wife's heart and demolish a family unit beyond comprehension. Therefore, it is our duty and calling to warn our fellow brothers in Christ that the grass is not greener on the other side, and that so called "needs" are not inevitably met nor is full satisfaction found outside of the gracious gift of the wife God gives us. "Drink water from your own cistern, flowing water from your own well. Should your springs be scattered abroad, streams of water in the streets? Let them be for yourself alone, and not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love" (Proverbs 5:15-19).
Let me clear on this though...there is absolutely, positively no justification to sin that enables a man to commit adultery both in his heart and mind or in the bed of an adulteress. None! Many men enslaved by the power of their lust never embrace this truth. Conversely, they would rather justify and/or blame shift for their sinful choices on anyone and everything else that influences their lives. "This is the way of an adulteress (or adulterer): she (he) eats and wipes her (his) mouth and says, “I have done no wrong" (Proverbs 30:20, emphasis mine). Healing can come to a marriage though and forgiveness is possible when complete humility is embraced and consequences for actions are fully accepted by the individual at fault without excuse. That is truly non-negotiable in order to gain victory over the downward spiral of lust that drives a man deeper and deeper into sin. For sexual lust usually involves conquest, and with each conquest the severity of lust increases and his desire for manifestation of those fantasies which feed his depravity becomes more demanding, vulgar and grotesque. It is a slippery slope indeed when wandering eyes evolve over time through various forms of idolatry until they are fully manifested in full blown adultery. In these moments, this truth is clearly evident: "Like a dog that returns to his vomit is a fool who repeats his folly" (Proverbs 26:11).
The Old Testament chillingly reminds us, "If a man commits adultery with the wife of his neighbor, both the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death" (Leviticus 20:10). And while we do not live under OT law per say due to the sacrifice of Christ for our sins, the reality still holds true based on experiential knowledge that death is imminent. Sadly, death is a reality for many men who have crossed the line of physical sexual adultery, as a carnage of broken trust has obliterated countless marriages and families both outside and within the walls of the church. But we cannot be misled into believing that lusting after a woman and thus committing adultery in our hearts does not result in death either. The punishment for sin is death and Christ pays for every sin, whether grave or minute, with His death on our behalf. "He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed" (1 Peter 2:24). Sexual sin in the Bible is straight-forward enough that we cannot misinterpret how it is defined. "Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality" (1 Corinthians 6:9). And while the point here is not that if you practice any of these particular sins you will not be saved; rather, what the apostle Paul is admonishing is acknowledgement that these practices are sinful and need to be resisted, not accepted. Plainly stated, in practicing these sins, a man is resisting the truth of the Word, of Christ Himself, which can only magnify his lack of trust in God's provision and cast doubt on whether the fruit of the Spirit is even present in his life. Therefore, if you accept Scripture as absolute truth, you now have a starting point for understanding the depth and breadth of what qualifies as sexual sin, which is controversial even within the church amazingly enough on certain practices Paul clearly defines as sin.
Bottom-line, as men we are all susceptible to the temptations of sexual idolatry in its various forms. Therefore, we rest confidently in the truth that "the Lord is faithful. He will establish you and guard you against the evil one" (2 Thessalonians 3:3). We are in the midst of a truth war and sexual identity is at the center of its hottest topics for discussion. Consequently, we must guard our hearts to the extent which Christ declares: "If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell" (Matthew 5:29-30).
There are tools available to help men who struggle with sexual addiction (which if you even look at a woman lustfully on a regular basis, you are addicted to lust...so don't bristle at the reality that you are a sexual addict and try to compartmentalize sexual addiction for deep gross perversion only!). Most notably, filters and accountability software are available for practically every computer and mobile device that accesses the Internet to guard against pornography, chat rooms, etc. (Covenant Eyes, Pure Eyes, X3 Watch, to name a few). Find an accountability partner (a trusted, devout, humble, Biblical brother in Christ who will hold your feet to the fire in love and not be passive for your soul's sake). And men who are married, get your wife involved by holding you accountable by receiving accountability reports that detail and score everything you view online (if you want to build trust, embrace humility, die to self, and live in transparency before your wife to rebuild your marriage). Concerning movies, screen them before you watch (Screenit.com). Limit television in general or cut it our completely (honestly, there are very few channels that do not have anything sexual in nature), and have your wife password protect the television with parental controls for the sake of your children and for you. When you're in public, bounce your eyes when you see an attractive woman and avoid browsing the covers of tabloid magazines, billboards, and other visual media used to exploit sexuality. Avoid venues where sexual temptation is high according to your respective tendencies to frequent sexually stimulating locales (parties, bars, strip/gentlemen clubs, massage parlors, adult "porn" stores, red light districts, etc).
Concerning married men specifically, avoid all opportunities of any form of personal relationship or friendship with a woman other than your wife that could compromise your marriage, your wife's security and her spiritual/emotional/physical protection. Adhere to a simple test my personal counselor relayed to me: "Who would I rather offend in this moment, the other woman or my wife?" Men who willingly provide a listening ear or shoulder to cry upon for another woman are flirting with disaster far greater than they realize. Remember, most women are stimulated emotionally which means when you provide interpersonal communication and a caring attitude, you can in essence give a woman an emotional orgasm, which is usually a light-bulb moment for most men when they recognize the analogy of that truth for the first time as it relates to the physical orgasm they as men typically seek. And please do not allow yourself to have lunch with another woman (sharing a meal together carries with it a 1-on-1 opportunity to speak intimately, which is extremely dangerous with a woman other than your wife). Avoid contact with women altogether, plain and simple (keep the lines drawn firmly in the sand)....you will never regret that decision as a married man. These are just a few suggestions for avoiding pitfalls which can propel you toward righteous living if you intentionally and consistently apply them to your daily routine. Bottom-line, be proactive and resolute if you want victory over sexual sin and temptation.
In addition to placing guard rails in your life on what to avoid, it is also essential to embrace the absolute truth of Scripture in various forms. Christian music that echoes the truth of Scripture helps bring the Word to life in many cases with a fresh perspective. Songs like "Indwelling Sin" and "Prayin For You" by Lecrae which illuminates the inner-dialogue battle a man faces during temptation, "Killa" by Lecrae which brings to life the entire sexual warnings of Scripture found in Proverbs 5-7 in a most-chilling way, and "Covenant Eyes" by Trip Lee which echoes Job 31:1 are lyrical masterpieces that can remind a man of God's truth in a way that applies the Word to everyday living. Bottom-line, the truth of Scripture can be preached to you audibly throughout the day as part of your routine, without having to stop and study Scripture in-depth when time is limited. Moreover, I implore with all of my being to men who are married and for those hopeful that God will grace them with a Christ-centered wife on day: please steer clear of the cavernous pit of comparison and/or expectations. No greater mistakes have I made in my marriage than in the context of placing unrealistic expectations upon my wife that are (in truth) rooted in vulgar and unacceptable sexual practices manifested by the fantastical world of pornography I allowed my mind to be exposed to for multiple decades. A wife, regardless of whether she is Godly or not, should never be subjected to comparison of quality or quantity as it relates to sex by her husband, nor expected to look a certain way in order to be sexual gratifying. Never! Nor should her body or appearance ever be demeaned in any way. For "charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised" (Proverbs 31:30). The moment you allow your mind to wander down that lonely road of comparison and expectation, you are headed for disaster. For Satan knows that you are always most susceptible to sexual sin when your mind is isolated in fantasy.
Do yourself a favor and embrace the free gift of contentment in God's provision and self-control for the sake of my obedience unto Christ, for those are the only tools you have at your disposal to distinguish the fiery arrows that seek to destroy you. "The end of all things is at hand; therefore be self-controlled and sober-minded for the sake of your prayers" (1 Peter 4:7). Bottom-line, it literally takes a radical approach for a man to gain victory over lust and sexual sin. Intentionality, unwavering commitment and consistency are absolutely critical in order to change behaviors that in some cases have been ingrained in a man's DNA for decades. More importantly though, accountability is non-negotiable and mandatory to break the pattern of isolation that is the breeding ground for sexual immorality. "Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment" (Proverbs 18:1) Sadly, most men are not willing to relinquish lustful tendencies because over time they do tend to become a security blanket in times of stress, frustration and boredom. Yet we were never promised an easy road to righteousness: "Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few" (Matthew 7:13-14).
In the end, a man must feed his mind with the truth of God's Word daily and seek wisdom and discernment through prayer, while offering praise, adoration and thanksgiving to God for the grace and mercy He continually provides. My humble prayer is that as men, we all seriously embrace the warning Jesus provides in Matthew 5:27-30 and abandon our lives of isolation and secrecy by confessing ours sins, accepting full responsibility for our foolish choices, and living out our faith by weighing our balance scale moments in the hope that we never need a moment of clarity to illuminate our sin and show us how wretched we are before a Holy God who will judge our thoughts and actions. "For we will all stand before the judgment seat of God; for it is written, 'As I live, says the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every tongue shall confess to God.' So then each of us will give an account of himself to God" (Romans 14:10-12).
